So, what is happening right now in this country is a good thing. We are finally ridding the workplace of men who use their positions to do things to women that are very wrong.
These predators, like H. Weinstein and K. Spacey, need to be held accountable and suffer the consequences of their lascivious actions, finally.
There is only one problem. This has not been an orderly round-up. This started out with one man, who finally pushed one too many times. I mean Bill Cosby. Way back when he was accused of misconduct, there was the "shock and awe" effect. No one could believe this was happening at all, and to a beloved institution, at that. But as it is at a junior high school dance, once one brave soul puts their foot out and steps up, others will follow and before you know it, you have a dance.
Well, it took some time for that to happen, but finally others have decided they are ready to dance. The only problem is, it has turned from a dance to a rave that is out of control. Everyone wants to be a big part of the "me too" movement, to tell a story of sexual abuse towards them, to be able to fully participate in the biggest upheaval in societal norms since women got the vote.
Now, every man who has ever made a misstep with a woman is under the microscope.
It's like when Women's Lib was at it's most radical. All men became terrified to open a door, pull out a chair, bring flowers or even compliment a woman, lest they be crucified for disrespect.
It became, because of some pretty rabid individuals who I suspect just hated men in general, a witch hunt. The same thing is happening now.
There are degrees to everything, even murder. So comparing an idiot with poor judgment, like Al Franken, to a predator like Weinstein or Spacey, is just not right.
I saw the picture of Sen. Franken and the sleeping model. He doesn't even appear to actually touch her. Was it a really stupid and juvenile thing to do? You bet. Was it predatory or harmful? noooo. She was asleep, she was not touched or harmed in any way. There is nothing for HER to be embarassed aboout. No reason it should bring any shame to anyone but him. And yet, he was hunted down and punished with the same righteous vigor as Weinstein. Now every man who has ever said anything inappropriate is in danger. And notice I said 'said anything". At this point, every woman in the country is scouring her past for ANY example of misdeed or word.
Thing is, in general, men tend to be inappropriate. Now before you send out a lynch mob for me...I am not talking about any man that gropes a woman dispite having been told no, or uses his position to coerce a woman into actions she does not want to do. I'm talking about the poor souls who truly suck at reading signals, and mistakenly try to get something going with the object of their affection. This is called "making a pass", not molestation. Just like in football, the object of the game is to score points, whether that be winning fair maidens heart, or just winning her for the night. Sometimes the pass succeeds, and there is a touchdown, sometimes there is a fumble or a flag on the play, but it is normal stuff, not the stufff of what is happening now..
Ladies, I am all for bringing down all the power mad predators that hunt in the workplace for victims. I think it is finally time to put a stop to all that. All I am saying is, before you burn someone at the stake, because this is a bell you cannot un-ring, just make sure this was an abuse of power or position and not just some adolescent schmuck, acting the fool, thinking he's smooth and trying to get over with no actual harmful intentions.
Just sayin'
Dragonfly Davis
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